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154 关于朱益辰的教育-虎妈读后感
昨天早上在班车上看了关于虎妈对孩子的教育问题，深责自己对朱益辰的放纵，觉得自己很不称职 晚上接朱益辰放学回家，看见今天上课要画的图案朱益辰还是一个都没有画，和上次一样 估计这次老师都看不下去了，所以帮着图了一点颜色，但是一眼就能看出不是她画的 朱益辰就跟我想象的一样屁股根本坐不住，根本就不会停下来画图画，我再一次感到自己教育的失责 从朱益辰出生到现在，我就从来没有强迫她坐着看一会儿书，或者画一会儿画，或者写一会儿字 朱益辰表现出非常明显的坐不定，思想不集中行为我也总是以各种借口敷衍着自己 比如她还小，等去了幼儿园就好了，比如她看巧虎的时候就很专心，说明她对自己喜欢的东西还是能思想集中的 但是随着她的长大，我越来越觉得自己是在自欺欺人，或者推卸责任 当别的孩子在这个年龄都能写字画画看书的时候，朱益辰什么都不会 家里的人，包括我在内，总是觉得她还小她还小，但是当我看见别人都会就她不会的时候心情及其难受 确切地说我才不在乎比别人如何如何呢，但是我还是深深地感到她其实已经不小了，我觉得是我耽误了她 我很羡慕那些能专心做一些事的孩子，我也很希望朱益辰能成为这样的孩子，那是一幅多么美妙的画面 对于一个人来说，能专心做一些事情，能专心并且长久的做一些事情是多么快乐，并且对她的'将来有很大帮助 当然可能当她长大了，也能专心做一些事情，但是为什么不从小就养成习惯呢？ 我决定从晚上开始，和她一起画画，写字，搭积木，我希望她能逐渐养成专心致志做事的习惯 但是情况比我预料的还要坏，朱益辰根本不肯坐下来超过2分钟 任何周边的一些小东西都能把她的注意力吸引过去，在我的坚持下，她拿着笔，但是极其痛苦，又吵又闹 不断地说还是不画了吧还是不画了吧，只是她不知道其实我比她更痛苦 如果早一年两年我就这样介入的话情况可能会好很多 最后又吵又闹的朱益辰在爸爸的连哄带打的方式下，花了一个小时，为一个小小的刺猬图上了颜色 我可以预计到在不久的将来，如果要朱益辰学一门乐器的话，比如小提琴，将是一幅怎么样的悲壮场面 我想起我小时候学书法和学手风琴的样子，爸爸妈妈大概就是觉得太悲壮所以就放弃了 但是我现在想来，如果当时不放弃那该多好啊，我现在在业余时间几乎都没有一样自娱自乐的项目，多么悲哀 虎妈的做法我并不赞同，但是有一点我很赞同，那就是不应该让孩子在一开始就放弃 我们总是说要培养孩子的兴趣，但是对于任何一件需要苦读苦练的东西来说，几乎所有的孩子都会马上选择放弃 而作为家长需要做得不就是在孩子要放弃的时候让她坚持下去吗？ 其实坚持下去的不仅仅是学习，而是一种品质，一种坚忍不拔的意志，这是最重要的 我高中有一个市级运动员的同学，班主任说你们永远比不过他，因为你们没有他那种运动员的品质 这话是真的，这话我一辈子都记得 不要说什么孩子的兴趣，也不要说什么不应该强迫孩子，这只是家长眼睁睁的放弃孩子坚持下去后的借口而已 虎妈问题探讨了中西方教育的不同，中式教育注重坚持，西式教育注重自由 当我们在吸收西式教育的同时，应该摈弃他们的缺点，比如太散漫，同时更不应该放弃自己的长处 坚持和坚忍不拔在将来将是一种多么可贵而难得的品质啊！我希望朱益辰能有，因为且不仅仅因为我没有 今天晚上我加班，朱益辰的爸爸说他会督促朱益辰画画的也不知道情况怎么样 另：我还是很讨厌铁棒磨成针，萤囊夜读，悬梁刺股之类的故事！《虎妈》读后感
读《虎妈》，是在矛盾的思想斗争中阅读。 她是充满斗志、满怀勇气、敢于为给予孩子自己认为对孩子最好的生活方式而任劳任怨的可敬妈妈； 她也是对生活和身边人充满苛求、连对宠物狗都怀有期望值、让自己很累别人也很累的神经质女人。 一方面是只有父母严格引导、维系父母在家庭的绝对权威才能产生优秀的孩子的传统东方家庭理念； 另一方面是只有让孩子个性自由发挥、在孩子自己热爱的事务上才能产生身心健康孩子的西方观点。 有人说，快乐的人生必须是值得骄傲的人生，而值得骄傲的人生只有经历磨炼才能得到。 有人说，快乐的人生必须放飞心灵、潇洒不羁、率性而为、不畏人言，追求内心真实的声音。 经历过被父母的高期望值和家庭的'绝对权威压着而严格要求自己、虽品学兼优但甚少快乐的童年， 也走过随心选择跳出既定圈子、充满挑战但在自由、压力和历练中找回自信的青年时期， 如今身为人母，《虎妈》的思考自然也是自己的思考，该给予孩子一种什么样的生活方式？ 文章给我最好的启发大概是， 每个孩子都是不一样的独立个体，倾听她的声音和表达你的声音一样重要，即便在爱的前提下交流比说教更好。 但作为妈妈，应该有勇气帮助孩子找到什么是对她最好的，不因害怕批评或误解而放弃帮助她选择最好的决心。 当然，前提是自己真的领悟人生，而且身体力行。所以更要不断学习，认真工作，为成为更好的自己而努力。‘虎妈’读后感
首先要说的是，这是一本很有趣味，可读性很强的书。友人星期六那天早上送给我这本书，白天断断续续读了几页，到晚上孩子们睡下了以后，才真正开始认真读，一发不可收拾，一直读到将近两点。其间豆爸数次试图关灯预警，均被我抗议抵制。 关于这本书的讨论，自从 new york times 高调发表“why chinese parenting is superior？” 来推销此书，所激发的膜拜，支持，反思，讨论，反对，鞭挞，诋毁（基本上scale from 1-10, 各种态度都能找到），实在是铺天盖地。这样的热度，实在不该由一本：某一个妈妈的近乎“流水帐”式的，回忆式的，且没有定论的 C 书，所引起。 此书的魅力（对于支持者），和魔力（对于反对者），究竟在何处？真正读这本书之前，我看到很多之零片断的评论，赞同的少，反对的多。以至于我没看书已经对此书有了偏见。在所有的评论当中，把这本书上升到“国际”，和“民族”的高度的，是这样一句话：“这本书之所以引发了美国人（注∶指非华人）的恐慌，因为它涉及了美国人现今两大痛脚：中国，和，教育。”WOW！！！ 看完书之后，我最先有的感慨，就是：如果我没有认真地看过此书，我不应该发表任何评论。因为根据别人的有偏见的引用的片断，而得出的结论，一定是偏见的。想知道真相如何，一定要自己先看到全貌，虽然我仍然会得出因为自身立场不同和经历有限，而肯定是偏见的看法，至少不是咀嚼别人已经消化过的材料，再吐出更加没有营养的东西。（为之前曾发出的不负责任的声音，鄙视自己一把。） 言归正传，说说我该归于从膜拜到诋毁这个坐标的那一点。我想对虎妈这个人的看法，我应该属于反省（自己）的`那部分人，偏向虎妈那一边。对孩子的教育的看法，基本上是反对的，离虎妈就远了。 先说说对虎妈这个人的看法。她是个对自己要求很高的人，非常地勤奋和刻苦，在事业上和孩子的教育上，她都投入了自己120%的精力。她的代价，是自己的娱乐和睡眠。作为一个事业上成功（所以忙碌）的全职妈妈，她在孩子们身上花的时间和精力，估计让大多数的妈妈们汗颜。举个例子，虎妈决定让二女儿lulu学小提琴。她自己最初并不懂这门乐器。于是她用学术研究的态度来学习了解。她描述自己在这上面所花的时间和精力, 绝非为了炫耀。那是她做人做事的态度：既然做了，就要做到最好! 最终她可以在家里以专家的（而不是以妈妈的）身份来监督孩子练琴。不夸张的说，她在“练琴”上所花的时间，比孩子可多得太多了。不光在孩子练琴的时候全身心陪伴，晚间还要研究乐谱（作为孩子的副教练），考虑孩子的老师和演出安排等问题（作为孩子的经纪人）。这种付出，贯穿两个孩子的成长历程，绝非常人所能。所以，虎妈所发出的“胜利的战歌 ”，从这一点上看，绝对有资格向我奏响。我看到虎妈所列出的每日日程表，再对照自己每日分配在孩子身上的时间，想到自己很多时候出于自私的生活安排，实在羞愧。 很多对虎妈的否定甚至诋毁，用“株心”的方式：“她还不是为了自己才这样？ ”，肯定是爱面子，孩子成功了自己好看！ ”，“为了出名，把自己的孩子置于媒体的灯光下，太自私了！ ”。如果不是虎妈自己家庭的富裕，恐怕很多人要说是为了把孩子培养成摇钱树了。这种以小人之心猜测对方“动机”来否定甚至诋毁人的办法，实在是太拙略的表演。我觉得自己最初对虎妈的成绩和高调的战歌，本能所产生的反感，多多少少是相形见龊后的一种恐慌。在恐慌之中，制造一种株心论调来否定对方，似乎是最直接的反应了。如果看到别人类似的否定，就更有“正合我意”的快感了。这样分析自己有点残忍，却是真实的。 我总觉得，如果我自己不能在提升自己（包括事业，个人修养）和陪伴孩子方面，与虎妈匹配，我实在是没有权利对她的教育方式的技术层面指手画脚。但是客观的来讲，确实不能因为肯定了妈妈这个人付出的努力，和她的良好意愿，就全盘肯定她教育方法的正确。不管如何，如果我是个孩子，我绝不会愿意有一个虎妈这样强势和专制的妈妈。我也不认为，虎妈的两个孩子，回忆起自己的童年时候，是温馨和无憾的。实际上，这是一本没有结论的书，从世俗的意义上，“胜利的红旗飘扬 ”，虎妈的两个女儿是当之无愧的天才儿童。但是，如果孩子们自己怀疑，排斥甚至抗争这样的结果，这是‘谁 ’或者‘什莫 ’意义上的成功呢？教育孩子的初始，伴随着成果，虎妈是骄傲的，也是自信的，战歌是高昂的。但是在结尾，虎妈对孩子们成年之后所给的回馈，失望之余有了很多的对自己和自己的教育方式的反省。她开始（被迫）给同样强势的正处在青春期反叛的二女儿lulu，更多的自由去选择，而不是按照自己认为的最好的人生安排去强迫执行。这种变通，发生在虎妈经历了自己妹妹面临绝症后所引发的对人生的自省，和与叛逆的lulu在人生安排上激烈碰撞，两败俱伤之后。实际上是另一种形式的虎妈的反省和自敛骄傲。 不管如何，我现在明白了为什莫这样一本书激发了这莫多的反响。它像一面镜子，照出了父母和不是父母的；对孩子的教育有负担的读者：心中的恐慌，自省，反弹和忧虑。对照自己的教育方式，每个人应该都有话要说。闲谈虎妈教育
转瞬间，我已经从一个不懂世事的小姑娘成为一个什么也不知晓的妈妈，有的时候，把时间定格在绕在父母膝下的时候时，突然发现，原来，有些事，很难做，很难为，确乎是难为父母，难为儿女~虎妈的报道我倒没有见过，因为我平常比较少注意新闻时事，但是，从单纯虎妈的字面意思看来，能略知一二，对于虎妈的教育观点，我始终保留意见，在我看来，世上无完事也无完人，所以，虎妈，从某个角度来说，是位好妈妈，但是，虎妈，从另外一个角度来说，她是位坏妈妈~
虎妈的好
虎妈最大的成功就是成就了一个孩子，让他走上了繁花似锦的大道，虽然她的方式不太被人赞同，但是，结果却是不容忽视的可观！
如果说，当你做了虎妈，却没有此位虎妈的雷厉风行，或者说是最后的结果以失败告终，那么，你是适得其反的，也许，孩子会与好的道路失之交臂。
中西方的.教育理念在传统上有着差别，东方教育更加注重孩子的文化礼仪，而西方却崇尚自由，所以，虎妈能够在西方世界成就一位东方孩子，这是她的可观之处，可以说，她是位好妈妈，而且是位了不起的妈妈！
所以，不管虎妈的方式如何，她的成功足以让我们借鉴，其实，我也想过做一位虎妈，但是，我缺乏她的耐心与勇气，这是我为人母的失败，通过虎妈事件，我觉得我更应该反省，其实做妈妈不难，但是想做个好妈妈，很难很难！
虎妈的坏
虎妈最大的缺点就是在更大的限度上面限制了孩子的自由，扼制了孩子思想的增长，缩小了孩子的生活氛围，甚至可以说是控制了孩子的思想，这是比较极端的做法。显然，虎妈目前是以成功的一面面世，但是，极端突然出祸端，有的时候我在想，这个孩子也许在心理承受能力上面也有过人的一面，不然，也不会这么成功，是吧?
虎妈把自己的思想强加在孩子的身上，虽然这也是一种母爱，虽然东方女性都是本着“望子成龙，望女成凤”的思想，但是，我认为她的这种方法实际上还是不可取的。这样教育出来的孩子也许会没有主见，没有魄力，凡事都不能自己主张，要征询他人的看法，这对孩子未来的成长是有害的。社会这个大家庭，更需要的是有主见，有能力的人，因为，能做事不等于会做事，所以，虎妈的这种方法不为我所用。
综上，虎妈的好与坏，都有借鉴于我们用的地方，取长补短，并不是说虎妈完全不对或是完全对，而是吸其长处，避其短处，相信，你会是一位新时代的虎妈！
我是新手妈妈，多看，多问，多学，相信，我也会是位好妈妈！
虎妈战歌读后感
阅读此书前，虎妈的名头早有耳闻，她的事例在互联网上沸沸扬扬，媒体对她的评价褒贬不一，她的教育方法轰动了美国教育界，并引起美国关于中美教育方法的大讨论，甚至登上美国《时代》周刊封面。
看完此书，我认为，虎妈的许多做法是值得学习的。
一、克服惰性。人性中总有趋利避害、追求一时享乐的惰性，特别是思想不成熟的孩子们，如果没有成年人的适当引导和督促，他们很难克服人性中的惰性，很多孩子玩游戏成瘾、贪玩厌学，都是因为克服不了惰性造成的。虎妈要求女儿每科成绩A、不准看电视、琴练不好就不准吃饭等，在很多媒体和专家眼中，这好像严厉得过分，剥夺了孩子幸福的童年，但是，玩乐永远比学习轻松，学习总会伴随着刻苦，人生总会需要告别散漫，进入激烈竞争、努力奋进的阶段，但我记得有一位家长这么回答一位专家的质疑：“我为什么剥夺孩子的童年？我如果给了孩子幸福的童年，他将失去幸福的'人生！”美国许多媒体对虎妈式的教育方法全盘否定，但美国哈佛图书馆馆训中却有醒目的这几条：
1、此刻打盹，你将做梦；而此刻学习，你将圆梦。
2、学习这件事，不是缺乏时间，而是缺乏努力。
3、学习时的苦痛是暂时的，未学到的痛苦是终生的。
4、学习并不是人生的全部。但，既然连人生的一部分――学习也无法征服，还能做什么呢？
5、谁也不能随随便便成功，它来自彻底的自我管理和毅力。
6、教育程度代表收入。
7、我荒废的今日，正是昨天殒身之人祈求的明日。
一个人，只有征服了自己，才能征服全世界；一个人，只有克服了自己的惰性，才能取得成功。
二、持之以恒：虎妈最让人钦佩的一点是，她做事持之以恒，她十几年如一日、严格执行着自己的教育计划，她可以天天督促孩子练琴，不仅要求孩子保证练习时间和练习质量，而且她也在一旁监督，并冷静、理智地对待孩子的逆反，和孩子一起分析问题，一起解决困难，她可以驱车9个小时带孩子拜访名师，还可以带着孩子游遍世界各地、为孩子举办大型个人演奏会，这些，都需要家长和孩子坚持不懈、日积月累的付出和努力。反思自己，有好的想法和方式，但总是几分钟热度，时间一长，就坚持不下来了，所以，教育的效果就总是不理想。
《虎妈战歌》很真实，它真实地记录了一个中国式家庭的教育方式，它真实记录了家长的严厉、孩子的反抗，记录了家长的无奈、孩子的逆反，记录了家长的爱、孩子的成长，它不仅记录了成功，也记录了失败，它不仅记录了家庭的温馨和快乐，也记录了中国式家长在孩子成长过程中的焦躁和近乎简单粗暴的言行，正是因为它也把这些不那么美好的东西呈现在人们眼前，所以，真实得那么可爱。
虎妈的教育方式可能不是完全成功的，也不一定适用于所有孩子，但有很多地方值得学习借鉴。从外在形式上看，虎妈的两个女儿收到了世界名校的录取通知书，这吻合了中国式家长对孩子的期望；但我认为，虎妈的教育方式最有价值的是她对孩子行为性格的培养和训练：刻苦努力、不轻言放弃、努力奋进；我相信，无论何时何地，无论什么人种，也无论什么意识形态，真诚善良、乐观向上、努力奋进是所有人都钦佩的，这恰恰是虎妈的教育方式的成功之处！
因为我的爸爸妈妈对我是宠爱，他们愿意放手让我自己做决定，所以我不愿意去看虎妈战歌。而当我拿到虎妈战歌这本书后，我第一念头便是批判，是的，我怀着批判的心态去阅读这本书。
看到虎妈的十条家规，我觉得只是一个比普通妈妈更加严格的妈妈。不许在外过夜，我赞同，毕竟社会并不如想象中的简单；不许卖弄琴艺，不许抱怨不能在学校里演奏，不许经常看电视玩电脑游戏，不许只有体育文艺拔尖，其他科目平平，不许任何一门功课学习成绩低于“A”，必须天天练习钢琴或小提琴，这些是中国大多数家庭都会有的规矩，我并不反感。但是，不许选择自己喜欢的课外活动，不许演奏其他乐器，说实话，我不喜欢这两条，似乎太过限制孩子的天性。不过，当我阅读完这本书，我改观了。
也许很多人都会和我以前一样，觉得虎妈就是一个虐杀儿童天性的人，可是，我们却忘了孩子，不过是一个心智不成熟的人，容易听信别人的话，盲目从众，好奇心重，等等一列不够成熟，不足以做能影响其一生的决定。决定由谁做？老师？NO，一位老师，要教多少个学生，怎么可能一一了解孩子的性情，怎么可能一一帮孩子找出最适合他的东西？那么，谁做决定？最了解孩子的，无非是孩子的父母，孩子从小在父母身边长大，所以，他们最了解孩子，知道孩子需要的是什么，什么对他才是最好的，所以，儿童时代，应由父母结合孩子的性情所决定。所以我不认为，虎妈在这方面的做法有什么过分的。
我特别赞同虎妈让女儿们学钢琴这一做法。虎妈是这样说的，‘我知道，我无法让她们因为生在贫苦的移民家庭而发奋努力。我不能改变生活的现状――我们居住在一所老式的大房子里；有两辆体面的汽车；出门度假时，住在高档的宾馆里。但我确信无疑的是，与我和我的父母相比，索菲娅和露露能接受到更好的教育且更具可塑性。而古典音乐不会让人堕落、不会令人懒惰、不会教人粗鲁，也不会宠坏孩子。相反，它会鞭策我的孩子达成我未能企及的目标，而它与我们祖先光宗耀祖的文化传统紧密相连。’
钢琴陶冶孩子的情操，可以避免浮躁。且不论钢琴的奖项有多少，孩子能获得的艺术技能有多少，能够让孩子的情操陶冶，提高个人修养，锻炼耐力和信心，这些还不够让孩子受益一生吗？何况，学钢琴的好处完全不止这些。虽然露露一开始，并不爱学钢琴，但后来虎妈的严格教育之下，她的收获并不少，并且后来选择她钟爱的网球。
我有一个妹妹，她的爸爸对她特别严格，要求也高，但可惜，他忘了在让孩子成绩好的同时，要培养孩子的技能，陶冶情操。以前她很喜欢画画，但被她的爸爸遏止了。现在这个妹妹，除了学习看书，其他一无所长。如果带她听音乐会或者看画展，她也只会肤浅的说，好看，好听，不好看，不好听，对画说或多或少懂一些，但也只能说皮毛中的皮毛。我认为在培养孩子，教育孩子的时候，必须先养性情，培养技能，再谈学习，而且这些技能不能是浮夸的（例如爵士乐），要让孩子学会沉淀，学会耐心，陶冶性情才是最真，最好的。
看完这本书，我对虎妈某些教育方式（批评的言语）也许还不是特别赞同，可是，不能否认，她很成功，她的严格要求是有意义。
但是我做不到虎妈般的教育方式，100个孩子，有100中教育方式，虎妈的教育方式适用于索非亚和露露，但未必适合其他人。我们不能找葫芦画瓢，硬搬硬套，取长补短，必定能让未来成为教师的我们受益匪浅。
I have recently read Battle Hymn of Tiger Mother published by The Penguin Press. This autobiography was written by the Chinese American woman Amy Chua, a tenured professor in Yale Law School. She causes a sensation because her strict but unique parenting which brings excellent performance of her two daughters.
This autobiography tells the course of Amy Chua how she raised the two daughters in Chinese parenting way. It is divided into three parts. At the first part, it gives some introductions of the two daughters, the family. And in the second and third parts, the writer tells more details in the process of raising her two different daughters and the difficulties she was confronted in the process, and most importantly the success the daughters achieved in music which brought Amy Chua pride as well as the whole family.
To some extent, I don’t like Amy’s parenting in some aspects. In my opinion, she deprived the nature of children and pushed too much pressure on their children, especially on Lulu who was under the shadow of her excellent elder daughter—Sophia. While I was reading the third part in the rebellion part, I couldn’t control my own emotion, I felt what Lulu felt and even hated against her selfish and autocratic mother. I couldn’t understand why Amy didn’t let Lulu get up from sit, for water, not even to go to the bathroom when Lulu just wanted a rest during the long hours’ practice of violin. She made Lulu practice violin all day during the family’s vacation abroad. She spoiled the vacation by letting the other family members waiting the practice. She was unreasonable.
But next what I do is to admire her.
There is an old Chinese saying “property can never last for three generations”.But Amy Chua did change it! Her parents came to U.S and suffered a tough life at the very beginning. They taught Amy math and piano in an extreme strict way when she was a kid. Under the influence of her parents, now Amy is frugal and pretty strict with her daughters and herself. They are the valuable points of her. Although she is so extreme on her parenting, she has the advisable ideas that the parents and the parents to be to learn.
Firstly, as parents, they couldn’t ignore their children and put all focus on their job. There is no excuse for not concerning their children. Except supervising her daughters, Amy Chua has to give lessons in university, write books and handle the family chores. She is so busy, but she doesn’t ignore the daughters.
Secondly, parents should be strict with their children especially when they are kids because kids lack of self-control. They should not indulge their children in internet or sleepovers.
Thirdly, parents should master some skills in parenting. As a matter of fact, there are so many Chinese parents who are strict with their children with no avail of success. Success can’t be totally copied, because some parents ignore the skills in parenting. When their children don’t follow their will or perform well enough to satisfy them, they will lose their temper and even beat their children, yes, of course, Amy Chua will be mad but she won’t beat her daughters, in this condition, she will be sober and wait until her daughters perform well enough. She learnt some music knowledge in her children’s class and supervised them patiently. She knew where to correct the mistakes and gave the children extraordinary success.
Tiger mother aroused a big heat in parenting and threw such an important issue for us to think about. Battle Hymn of Tiger Mother gives us really some enlightenment. Anyway, that’s a really unique experience in reading this book.
Earlier this year, a book on parenting memoir of the tiger mother battle hymn sensation in the United States, sparking a heated debate about education thought idea, this also caused wide attention of the Chinese people.
The author Amy chua, a chinese-american, Harvard University, bachelor of arts and doctor of law, the Yale university professor. Approximate the sheep in Europe and the relaxation education situation, Ms. Chua in Chinese parents“ high expectations and strict parenting to two children.
Finally two children are outstanding, learning and music are all very good, is the envy of achievements, locally known as music child prodigy. The tiger mother warsong revealing the author experienced a course of raising two children and parenting experience.
Read the book, page by page feel Amy chua education child”s real and true feelings, amazing chua“s devotion and dedication, experience the extraordinary Cai Meier and absolute, step by step into the joys and sorrows of the author, Amy chua and her two children image lifelike show in sight.
Cai Meier writes:
Become an expert, actually there is no fun at all. Any skills to master, must pay the hard work. And from the nature of children, never love. Therefore, the beginning don”t give them opportunities to choose don“t work hard, it becomes crucial.
Don”t give children choose not to opportunity, became the basic idea and starting point of the Cai Meier parenting. Nothing is born like hard. The children more love with open arms to embrace. American education special emphasis on respect for the child, often give children the right to choose. As a result, many children will choose to give up very easily. And as a parent, the most unfavorable to protect the behavior of the child“s self-esteem, is to see their children gave up the attempt in the face of hardship, but their inaction.
Don”t give children choose don“t work hard, is to help children choose to chance. Let the child choose a meaningful things, then concentration and strength to rush toward, perseverance. Actually, the process itself, the children can benefit from life. Develop children treatment enterprise concentration and strength to rush toward, perseverance attitude and will quality, this is the direction of chua”s parenting. Don“t give children choose don”t work hard, this is really a parenting is the best choice. Strict management and supervision, it is Amy chua“s parenting patterns, Chinese traditional education mode is Amy chua said.
虎妈战歌的读后感
今天看了虎妈战歌，因为在等兔爸爸下班。 里面的虎妈是一个从祖父辈开始在菲律宾生活的人，但是为了表现自己和“佣人国”完全不搭界，疯狂的叫自己中国人。 从虎妈的父亲辈开始就是目标非常明确，缺乏对小孩的爱的家长。把回家孩子给自己拿拖鞋作为规矩来执行的家长。 也不理会孩子的爱好和特长。然后到了虎妈就变本加厉，强迫的把自己的标准和原则强加给自己的女儿。 还好他的女儿也继承了犹太人的聪明，在应付虎妈上虽然反抗，但最后只能妥协。 我总觉得这样的孩子长大了，虽然有自己的技能可以生活得很好，但是不一定能认真地热爱生活。 我小的时候希望过能学钢琴和象棋，但是我的'妈妈没有给我这样的环境。她固执的认为只要能好好学习，读博士就能过上不错的生活。在我年纪越来越大的时候，我就慢慢地体会到，人要是有一技之长，哪怕是无聊的时候安慰自己都是非常不错的选择。 在尊重孩子和强迫孩子之间，并不是非常容易的选择。我慢慢开始后悔在我童年的时候，都浪费了多少宝贵的时光。也觉得这个国家的教育制度，正在让我们的孩子们浪费更多的宝贵时光。 我可怜的小外甥女，就是在重重压力面前，从小学就没有休息的，马不停蹄的上各种辅导班，她的爷爷望女成龙的帮她排满整个假期的计划，丝毫没有喘息的机会。以至于小孩最后没有一样是自己喜欢的学习。 我现在回忆我自己的童年，除了犯傻就是浪费了不少的时间。虎妈战歌英语读后感
Earlier this year, a book on parenting memoir of the tiger mother battle hymn sensation in the United States, sparking a heated debate about education thought idea, this also caused wide attention of the Chinese people.
The author Amy chua, a chinese-american, Harvard University, bachelor of arts and doctor of law, the Yale university professor. Approximate the sheep in Europe and the relaxation education situation, Ms. Chua in Chinese parents' high expectations and strict parenting to two children
Finally two children are outstanding, learning and music are all very good, is the envy of achievements, locally known as music child prodigy. The tiger mother warsong ”revealing the author experienced a course of raising two children and parenting experience.
Read the book, page by page feel Amy chua education child's real and true feelings, amazing chua's devotion and dedication, experience the extraordinary Cai Meier and absolute, step by step into the joys and sorrows of the author, Amy chua and her two children image lifelike show in sight.
Cai Meier writes:
Become an “expert, actually there is no fun at all. Any skills to master, must pay the hard work. And from the nature of children, never love. Therefore, the beginning don't give them opportunities to choose don't work hard, it becomes crucial.”
“Don't give children choose not to opportunity”, became the basic idea and starting point of the Cai Meier parenting. Nothing is born like hard. The children more love with open arms to embrace. American education special emphasis on respect for the child, often give children the right to choose. As a result, many children will choose to give up very easily. And as a parent, the most unfavorable to protect the behavior of the child's self-esteem, is to see their children gave up the attempt in the face of hardship, but their inaction.
Don't give children choose don't work hard, is to help children choose to chance. Let the child choose a meaningful things, then concentration and strength to rush toward, perseverance. Actually, the process itself, the children can benefit from life. Develop children treatment enterprise “concentration and strength to rush toward, perseverance” attitude and will quality, this is the direction of chua's parenting. Don't give children choose don't work hard, this is really a parenting is the best choice. Strict management and supervision, it is Amy chua's parenting patterns, Chinese traditional education mode is Amy chua said.
I have recently read Battle Hymn of Tiger Mother published by The Penguin Press in . This autobiography was written by the Chinese American woman Amy Chua, a tenured professor in Yale Law School. She causes a sensation because her strict but unique parenting which brings excellent performance of her two daughters.
This autobiography tells the course of Amy Chua how she raised the two daughters in Chinese parenting way. It is divided into three parts. At the first part, it gives some introductions of the two daughters, the family. And in the second and third parts, the writer tells more details in the process of raising her two different daughters and the difficulties she was confronted in the process, and most importantly the success the daughters achieved in music which brought Amy Chua pride as well as the whole family.
To some extent, I don’t like Amy’s parenting in some aspects. In my opinion, she deprived the nature of children and pushed too much pressure on their children, especially on Lulu who was under the shadow of her excellent elder daughter—Sophia. While I was reading the third part in the rebellion part, I couldn’t control my own emotion, I felt what Lulu felt and even hated against her selfish and autocratic mother. I couldn’t understand why Amy didn’t let Lulu get up from sit, for water, not even to go to the bathroom when Lulu just wanted a rest during the long hours’ practice of violin. She made Lulu practice violin all day during the family’s vacation abroad. She spoiled the vacation by letting the other family members waiting the practice. She was unreasonable.
But next what I do is to admire her.
There is an old Chinese saying “property can never last for three generations”。 But Amy Chua did change it! Her parents came to U.S and suffered a tough life at the very beginning. They taught Amy math and piano in an extreme strict way when she was a kid. Under the influence of her parents, now Amy is frugal and pretty strict with her daughters and herself. They are the valuable points of her. Although she is so extreme on her parenting, she has the advisable ideas that the parents and the parents to be to learn.
Firstly, as parents, they couldn’t ignore their children and put all focus on their job. There is no excuse for not concerning their children. Except supervising her daughters, Amy Chua has to give lessons in university, write books and handle the family chores. She is so busy, but she doesn’t ignore the daughters.
Secondly, parents should be strict with their children especially when they are kids because kids lack of self-control. They should not indulge their children in internet or sleepovers.
Thirdly, parents should master some skills in parenting. As a matter of fact, there are so many Chinese parents who are strict with their children with no avail of success. Success can’t be totally copied, because some parents ignore the skills in parenting. When their children don’t follow their will or perform well enough to satisfy them, they will lose their temper and even beat their children, yes, of course, Amy Chua will be mad but she won’t beat her daughters, in this condition, she will be sober and wait until her daughters perform well enough. She learnt some music knowledge in her children’s class and supervised them patiently. She knew where to correct the mistakes and gave the children extraordinary success.
Tiger mother aroused a big heat in parenting and threw such an important issue for us to think about. Battle Hymn of Tiger Mother gives us really some enlightenment. Anyway, that’s a really unique experience in reading this book.
虎妈战歌英文读后感
I have recently read Battle Hymn of Tiger Mother published by The Penguin Press in 20xx. This autobiography was written by the Chinese American woman Amy Chua, a tenured professor in Yale Law School. She causes a sensation because her strict but unique parenting which brings excellent performance of her two daughters.
This autobiography tells the course of Amy Chua how she raised the two daughters in Chinese parenting way. It is divided into three parts. At the first part, it gives some introductions of the two daughters, the family. And in the second and third parts, the writer tells more details in the process of raising her two different daughters and the difficulties she was confronted in the process, and most importantly the success the daughters achieved in music which brought Amy Chua pride as well as the whole family.
To some extent, I don’t like Amy’s parenting in some aspects. In my opinion, she deprived the nature of children and pushed too much pressure on their children, especially on Lulu who was under the shadow of her excellent elder daughter—Sophia. While I was reading the third part in the rebellion part, I couldn’t control my own emotion, I felt what Lulu felt and even hated against her selfish and autocratic mother. I couldn’t understand why Amy didn’t let Lulu get up from sit, for water, not even to go to the bathroom when Lulu just wanted a rest during the long hours’ practice of violin. She made Lulu practice violin all day during the family’s vacation abroad. She spoiled the vacation by letting the other family members waiting the practice. She was unreasonable.
But next what I do is to admire her.
There is an old Chinese saying “property can never last for three generations”。 But Amy Chua did change it! Her parents came to U.S and suffered a tough life at the very beginning. They taught Amy math and piano in an extreme strict way when she was a kid. Under the influence of her parents, now Amy is frugal and pretty strict with her daughters and herself. They are the valuable points of her. Although she is so extreme on her parenting, she has the advisable ideas that the parents and the parents to be to learn.
Firstly, as parents, they couldn’t ignore their children and put all focus on their job. There is no excuse for not concerning their children. Except supervising her daughters, Amy Chua has to give lessons in university, write books and handle the family chores. She is so busy, but she doesn’t ignore the daughters.
Secondly, parents should be strict with their children especially when they are kids because kids lack of self-control. They should not indulge their children in internet or sleepovers.
Thirdly, parents should master some skills in parenting. As a matter of fact, there are so many Chinese parents who are strict with their children with no avail of success. Success can’t be totally copied, because some parents ignore the skills in parenting. When their children don’t follow their will or perform well enough to satisfy them, they will lose their temper and even beat their children, yes, of course, Amy Chua will be mad but she won’t beat her daughters, in this condition, she will be sober and wait until her daughters perform well enough. She learnt some music knowledge in her children’s class and supervised them patiently. She knew where to correct the mistakes and gave the children extraordinary success.
Tiger mother aroused a big heat in parenting and threw such an important issue for us to think about. Battle Hymn of Tiger Mother gives us really some enlightenment. Anyway, that’s a really unique experience in reading this book.
《虎妈战歌》和我的读后感
（教育心得篇） 《虎妈战歌》和我的读后感 好几位老美同事跟我提起这个话题，他们感兴趣的，是我作为一个在美华人，读了耶鲁大学法学院华裔教授蔡美儿(Amy Chua)的《虎妈战歌》(“Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother”)后，有什么感想。本来上班挺忙的`，但为了不让老美觉得老中们都是一帮只重学业不顾其他的”nerds”，我还是抽空用英文写了以下的回答，“以正视听”： The Chinese “Tiger Mom” and my response Thanks for sharing this article and your opinion. Parenting and education is such an interesting issue. I have also seen the excerpts translated in some Chinese websites. Similarly, the views (and practices) of the author raised quite some debates in those places as well. A couple of my feedbacks will follow. First of all, bear in mind however, that I think each person should have their own practices and ideas about parenting, because each kid is unique as an individual. The parents may fail miserably if they try to follow others without consideration to their kid’s special circumstances. My first reaction, just like one quoted in the WSJ, is that “I am in disbelief after reading this article.” Any attempts to contract and compare the HUGE topic of Chinese and Western practices would be a daunting task. Any generalization would lose the finer details of individual approaches. The author, while using the excuse of being “the Chinese mother”, finds validation for her strict rules and control tactics for her daughters from the vague and generalized concept of the “Chinese practice.” I, for one, do not feel this represent the true understanding of the Chinese (or Confucian) culture. A very famous Confucius saying is “因才施教”, (pinyin: Yin Cai Shi Jiao), that is, teaching or raising a kid according to his or her own strengths (or weaknesses). The author, a professor at Yale Law School, supposedly a successful and smart professional, and educator, seems to forget this basic Chinese educational tenet at home. Not every child is necessarily good at all these sort of things (violin, piano, math, sciences, etc), not every kid needs to be playing violin or piano that well at that young an age. Yes, among our numerous friends, many of whom are Chinese, there are strict moms, but I don’t think I have come across one who is THAT strict as Amy Chua. Her actions adhere to the stereotype of “the Chinese mom,” and her writing adds to that myth. How sad! The author wrote: “For their part, many Chinese secretly believe that they care more about their children and are willing to sacrifice much more for them than Westerners, who seem perfectly content to let their children turn out badly. I think its a misunderstanding on both sides. All decent parents want to do whats best for their children”. She is right in saying that all parents want to do what’s best for their kids, but her writing, and her seemingly strong believe in her own “correctness”, unfortunately adds to that misunderstanding, rather than dispelling it. My second comment: Now that our son Kevin is in college, I feel we have gone through all the due processes and stages described in Chua’s article. But I think there is more than one road to success, at least other roads than what Chua preached. In our family, my wife probably stands firmer than me with the rules for our son. But I can say proudly that we didn’t do any of the things described as “must do’s”, such as no sleepover, no play, no TV, no video games, no this or no that. We loved to have Kevin go to sleepovers with his friends when he was little. We encouraged him to participate in sports and/or other school activities. He played quite a bit of video games and watched TV probably as much as his peers. Actually, he probably won quite a bit of friends because he was able to guide classmates in solving some of the games. :=) How can a boy’s childhood be complete if he is not allowed to play games? Kevin did play piano, and then violin during his teenage years. That caused quite some headaches for us, for he didn’t like to practice. But we never pushed him to practice more than what the private tutors asked for. Other than that, we were probably lucky, because he was quite self disciplined and always managed his school work well. My third comment: “Don’t compare apples to oranges”. I saw in one of the reader feedbacks, where a reader named “Mike Reiche” wrote that the disparity between Chinese and Western is that out of 1.3 billion Chinese, the top 1% have moved to the US. Out of 300 million US children, 100% are in the US. So when you randomly pick a Chinese family, you are picking from the top 1% and comparing with the general population of western families. While I don’t totally agree about the “top 1%”, the fact is that most of the Chinese families people come across here in the US probably are typical of such make-ups: mom or dad with PhD degrees from some science or tech fields, or with at least college level education backgrounds. They most likely work in high tech companies, or are doctors, accountants, or businessmen. They are somewhat “cream of the crop” from the rigid education and selection process in China, thus, they tend to place more emphasis on education and would push their kids harder. Chua herself may be the result of such a product, judging from her WSJ article family picture, where she was a new-born with bespectacled parents, who as new immigrants know the difficulty realities of surviving in a new promised land. Also, though Chua didn’t mentioned in the WSJ excerpt the background of her husband, from my reading she is married to a Jewish person. She mentioned her husband’s Jewish traditions, and had threatened her daughter with “no Hanukkah presents.” I remember people saying Jewish families place education as highly, if not higher, than Chinese families. So when her two poor little girls have parents from the Chinese and Jewish backgrounds, what else can they expect? As you can tell, I am somewhat critical of Chua’s approach, and am a strong believer that there are merits in both “Chinese” and “Western” approaches, rather than preferring one vs. the other. I believe students need to work hard and take studies seriously, but yes, life is also so much more than just school. And there are so many things to enjoy along the way, that we should not limit ourselves to textbooks, classrooms, recital halls, so let’s dont forget to go to the sports fields, nature and wilderness, volunteer activities, and live a fuller life. This response has gone a bit too long, because education is one of my favorite topics. You mentioned that Emily and you have had many discussions on this topic. Please feel free to share my response with her, so she sees at least one Chinese parent’s candid view.虎妈战歌的英语读后感
I have recently read Battle Hymn of Tiger Mother published by The Penguin Press in . This autobiography was written by the Chinese American woman Amy Chua, a tenured professor in Yale Law School. She causes a sensation because her strict but unique parenting which brings excellent performance of her two daughters.
This autobiography tells the course of Amy Chua how she raised the two daughters in Chinese parenting way. It is divided into three parts. At the first part, it gives some introductions of the two daughters, the family. And in the second and third parts, the writer tells more details in the process of raising her two different daughters and the difficulties she was confronted in the process, and most importantly the success the daughters achieved in music which brought Amy Chua pride as well as the whole family.
To some extent, I don’t like Amy’s parenting in some aspects. In my opinion, she deprived the nature of children and pushed too much pressure on their children, especially on Lulu who was under the shadow of her excellent elder daughter—Sophia. While I was reading the third part in the rebellion part, I couldn’t control my own emotion, I felt what Lulu felt and even hated against her selfish and autocratic mother. I couldn’t understand why Amy didn’t let Lulu get up from sit, for water, not even to go to the bathroom when Lulu just wanted a rest during the long hours’ practice of violin. She made Lulu practice violin all day during the family’s vacation abroad. She spoiled the vacation by letting the other family members waiting the practice. She was unreasonable.
But next what I do is to admire her.
There is an old Chinese saying “property can never last for three generations”。 But Amy Chua did change it! Her parents came to U.S and suffered a tough life at the very beginning. They taught Amy math and piano in an extreme strict way when she was a kid. Under the influence of her parents, now Amy is frugal and pretty strict with her daughters and herself. They are the valuable points of her. Although she is so extreme on her parenting, she has the advisable ideas that the parents and the parents to be to learn.
Firstly, as parents, they couldn’t ignore their children and put all focus on their job. There is no excuse for not concerning their children. Except supervising her daughters, Amy Chua has to give lessons in university, write books and handle the family chores. She is so busy, but she doesn’t ignore the daughters.
Secondly, parents should be strict with their children especially when they are kids because kids lack of self-control. They should not indulge their children in internet or sleepovers.
Thirdly, parents should master some skills in parenting. As a matter of fact, there are so many Chinese parents who are strict with their children with no avail of success. Success can’t be totally copied, because some parents ignore the skills in parenting. When their children don’t follow their will or perform well enough to satisfy them, they will lose their temper and even beat their children, yes, of course, Amy Chua will be mad but she won’t beat her daughters, in this condition, she will be sober and wait until her daughters perform well enough. She learnt some music knowledge in her children’s class and supervised them patiently. She knew where to correct the mistakes and gave the children extraordinary success.
Tiger mother aroused a big heat in parenting and threw such an important issue for us to think about. Battle Hymn of Tiger Mother gives us really some enlightenment. Anyway, that’s a really unique experience in reading this book.
从《虎妈战歌》，反思中式教育
从《虎妈战歌》，反思中式教育；今日学堂教师 钱 莉
不久前，耶鲁大学法学院教授蔡美儿，出版了自己的新书《虎妈战歌》。该书，讲述了这位华裔以高期待和严格的教养方式培养两个女儿的故事。她的两个孩子与很多出色的华人一样，在学业和音乐上有非常卓越的表现，在当地被人称为神童。此书一经上市，便在美国掀起了轩然大波，引发了强烈的社会反应以及对于中美教育方法的激烈讨论。随即，这股热浪蔓延到欧洲、亚洲，虎妈也登上了时代杂志的封面，成为了这个时代的一个焦点。
“虎妈”的教育有什么特色? 这种教育方式会带来什么样的后果？为什么知名大学教授会采取这样的教育方式？剧烈反响的背后折射的是什么样的中西文化冲突？中西方对于虎妈现象又会各自抱着怎样的态度呢？带着这些问题，我开始了对“虎妈“的了解，研究和思考。
一 近距离一窥虎妈教育；
《虎妈战歌》，单从名字来看，就体现了一种霸气，“老虎”代表为丛林之王，象征唯我独尊、不容侵犯的权威。“战歌”代表虎妈蔡美儿跟孩子之间的一场场控制权争夺战，处处体现了她的铁腕风格。她向孩子提出了近乎苛刻的要求，并采取非常坚决的态度来执行。其中，比较具有代表性的是，她为孩子制定了十条家规：不准在外过夜；不准参加玩伴聚会； 不准参加校园演出；不准抱怨不能参加校园演出 ；不准看电视或玩电脑游戏 ；不准擅自选择自己喜欢的课外活动；不准任何一门功课的学习成绩低于“A”；不准在除体育与话剧外的其他科目拿不到第一 ； 不准练习钢琴及小提琴以外的乐器 ；不准在某一天没有练习钢琴或小提琴。
这些家规，体现了虎妈非常鲜明的态度和教育价值观，即：要求孩子顺从、努力和自律，强调孩子学业和技能上的优秀拔尖；反对逃避和独立思考，忽视孩子在运动或是活动上的表现。而这背后反映出的教育思想是：
1 虎妈认为在孩子小的时候，由于能力有限，他们无法做出明智成熟的选择，所以孩子不需要自主选择，他们只需要接受家长的安排，服从家长的要求。
2虎妈认为每个人都有巨大的潜能，但人性中趋乐避苦的弱点会妨碍孩子自身能力的发挥，所以家长需要进行干预，尽可能地开发孩子的能力，并限制一切不良因素的干扰。
另外，从本书的故事中来看，在执行的过程中，虎妈遵循着以下的教育原则：1结果第一，只要实现了结果，不管中间采取了什么样的过程，孩子的感受和情绪都不重要。如对大女儿的方式，会常跟她说“如果再弹错一个音符，就把娃娃丢到火力烧掉”来进行威胁。
2无论什么情况下，孩子都要无条件地服从家长的安排和要求。如果没有服从，家长可以采取任何的方式来对待孩子以达到服从的目的。
如虎妈的小女儿露露是一个很有个性的孩子，她常常不会轻易地服从妈妈，而是用各方式表达自己“No”的想法。在她六岁的时候，虎妈要她开始学习钢琴。露露很不情愿，一把就将乐谱撕烂了。这时，虎妈的处理方式是严厉地教训并给孩子选择：不好好练琴，就站在外面去。（当时外面的温度是零下六度，还有刺骨的寒风）结果，露露的选择是站到外面去，宁愿忍受寒冷也不屈服。无奈之下，虎妈开始用“好孩子”进行引导她，但露露仍不为所动。最后，虎妈发现坳不过孩子，就改变策略，用讨好的方式获得了孩子的认同。
在这个过程中，虎妈的对待孩子的方式、实施的奖惩，均不是依据于规则，而是依据于自己的当时的意愿和情绪来决定。在孩子与她之间，她就是绝对的权威，出于“爱”的名义，可以理直气壮地强迫孩子做任何她们不愿意做的事情，直到达到她的标准为止。
这种教育模式，违背了“人都有自主愿望，都渴望自我成就”的教育原则，当孩子在不断地服从家长的意志，为家长学习，为家长而活时，她要么就选择压抑自己，成为一个分裂的人。如大女儿一直很听话，很配合，但在她六岁的时候却在钢琴上留下了牙印。这是孩子发泄自己心中不满的方式，不知道她忍受家长的要求时在幼小的心灵上又留下了多少牙印！要么就选择做自己，变得叛逆。如小女儿，一直在试图从虎妈手中争夺自我掌控的权利。不管是哪一种，他们都活得不开心。基于这样的心理，就不难理解有关调查所说的：在西方社会中，亚裔女性的自杀率是最高的。
二 追根溯源，耶鲁教授父母与中国文化的联系；
细细看虎妈的教育，跟它所产生的效应相比，其实它没有相应的新奇度。用虎妈自己的话来说，她对孩子采用的是严厉的中国式教育，这在传统的中国家庭其实是很常见的。然而，为什么中西结合的家庭，双方身为耶鲁教授的父母会拥有这样的教育观呢？
虎妈蔡美儿作为美国第二代移民，她出生在美国，甚至无法讲一口流利的中文。她对孩子的教育方式，深受上一代父母的`影响，可以说是直接的模仿和复制，只是程度不同罢了。而第一代移民的华人则深受传统的儒家文化的影响，蔡美儿所采用的专横的教育模式都可以从儒家文化中找到根源。如儒家文化看重等级次序，三纲五常。它强调人与人之间是不平等的，有高低贵贱之分，地位低的要服从地位高的。在家庭中孩子的地位低，他就要无条件服从家长，这是一种美德。其次，由于在儒家文化里，地位高的人才能赢得尊重，所以华裔家庭常常都是努力勤劳，通过奋斗期望跻身于中上流阶层以过上有尊严的生活。另外，由于在儒家文化中从来没有强调人需要脑子进行独立的思考，只要求服从，所以华人常常显得思维僵化，价值取向单一，他们统统都把学业和技能上的突出作为成功的标志。蔡美儿作为家庭的长女，她选择放弃自己的意愿，迎合父母的要求。如在专业选择上，她考虑的是医学和法学，这两个都是毕业后在美国相当稳定的职业。由于不愿意学医，她转而学习法学。她就像一个机器一样背诵标准答案，用她自己的话来说，“无论教授何时向我发问，我的脑子都像结了冰一样僵硬。”这是丧失思考能力的表现。
如果说，蔡美儿对知识的热情和兴趣被他的父母彻底毁掉时，她也用同样的方式一度将自己小女儿学习小提琴的兴趣彻底毁掉。从中，我们不难发现这种文化就像病毒一样，会一代代地复制，就算拥有了丰富的学识，就算生活在美国这个倡导自由平等的国家，依然无法从中将其从骨子里抹掉。
蔡美儿的丈夫是犹太裔美国人，在他成长过程中，家庭中采用的是自由宽松的西方是教育，他成了非常典型的西方人，有梦想和热情，有独立思考的精神。即便如此，这对夫妇发现西方教育尤其是公立教育的不足之处，孩子每天都有很多的空余时间，它们没有得到充分的利用，可能高中毕业生的数学成绩还赶不上中国卖菜的老太。
基于以上这些，身为美国人的父亲想弥补西方公立教育的不足，但又无法确信自己能找到好的方式，因而他们的家庭就以蔡美儿严厉的中式教育为主导。我认为，这是对西方教育无奈之下的一种妥协。
三 文化交锋，华裔家庭如何适应西方主流文化？
每种文化都有自己的独特的价值观，只有当不同的文化拥有某些相同的价值观时，两者才可以融合。否则，就会产生激烈的冲突。西方的主流文化是强调尊重和平等，中国文化强调的是服从和等级，这两种文化碰撞在一起，必然产生冲突。如有一次，虎妈在公共场合称自己的女儿是垃圾，在虎妈看来很平常的事情，竟然当场就引起了很多西方人的反感，还有人哭着离开了以表明自己的态度。在这一点核心价值上，我认为华人无法适应西方主流文化。
不过美国这个移民国家，给予每个人平等的机会去追求自己的美国梦。华人勤奋努力，在学业上有突出的表现，他们很容易考上名牌的大学，走上学术的道路。在这一点上，他们可以赢得西方的认同，但是更深层的领域，他们无法进入，因为缺乏思考和质疑的能力。所以，我认为华裔家庭只能部分地适应西方的主流文化，在大部分时候，他们是游离在主流之外的。
四 中国人眼中的“虎妈”；
当讨论“虎妈”现象的热潮席卷中国时，它在中国也引起了很大的反响。中国人对此的看法分为这几种：
1 大部分中国妈妈不赞同虎妈，认为虎妈无法代表中国妈妈，中国妈妈们正在向西方学习；的确，从现在的状况来看，已很少有妈妈会采取虎妈严厉的教育方式来对待自己的孩子，她们变得宽松，给予了孩子更多的自由，十分宠爱甚至是溺爱自己的孩子，孩子的一句话可能就会变成圣旨。这跟西方的教育看似相仿，但实际上千差万别，因为它依然是建立在不平等不尊重的基础之上。只不过虎妈是强迫和压制孩子的“家长”，而现在的中国妈妈大多则是满足和纵容孩子的“家奴”。这两者是阴阳的两极，但本质上是一样的。
这反映出中国人的思维特征是：混乱，无法沿着一条线将事实分析清楚；喜欢下结论，对于自己说的话，没有经过严密的论证就轻易地得出了。
价值观背景：儒家的价值观深入人心，不懂得平等和尊重。同时，由于缺乏良好的思维，也接触西方思想的时候，无法很好的消化，导致自己的价值观也变得混乱。
2 在中国，代表权威的教育部长的回应：他表示，家长要尊重子女的健康情趣，共同减轻学生课业负担。但减负不是放任自流，而是要给学生更多了解社会、思考和动手的时间。
思维特征：喜欢讲大话和空话，前后缺乏严密的逻辑，根本无法操作。针对他的话，可以问以下的问题了：如什么是情趣？如何评判它是健康的？减轻了课业负担就是尊重子女的健康情趣吗？学生要了解社会的什么？如何了解？
价值观背景：依然是深受儒家价值观的影响。由于儒家讲究地位尊卑，说话和做事从来不依据于事实和真理，脑袋长在屁股上。
五 国外人眼中的“虎妈”；
西方媒体对虎妈进行了连篇累牍的报道，在讨论虎妈时，也分几种意见：
1 大众对于虎妈的行为十分惊骇和疑惑，表示了鲜明的反对和强烈的不认同，认为虎妈是“疯子”和“魔鬼”，在“虐待儿童”；
2 学者们依据事实和教育原理，来对虎妈现象进行质疑和理性的分析，挖掘虎妈“成功”背后的隐患。
3哈佛大学校长萨默斯与虎妈蔡美儿进行了一场辩论，主题是在计算机能越来越多代替人工作的现代，怎样的教育价值观才是合适的。
4 对美国教育存在问题进行反思。
对面西方如此多的评论，很难用“西方评论”这样笼统的词汇来进行概括。因为西方强调的是多元价值，不同的人就有不同的看法。这几种看法代表着西方不同阶层人员的反应。第一种，属于大众对虎妈现象的否认，背后的原因是价值观的冲突，他们无法理解虎妈不尊重孩子的行为，带有明显的情绪；第二种是学者们的反应，他们尊重事实，理性地进行分析，帮助人们看清“虎妈神话”；第三种是西方的官员。与中国官员截然不同的是，他们更加关注真理，用辩论这样正式的方式来对待。相比而言，他们的言辞更加犀利，可以直接抓住事情的根本所在；第四种在各个阶层中都有反应，虽然虎妈教育有问题，但在看到虎妈成果的时候，他们开始反省自己在教育中出了什么问题，有危机感。
从对热点事情的反应中，我们可以发现西方的精英阶层跟普通民众有共同的价值观，但在思维境界却有明显的差别，这是西方高等教育的功劳，也是一个社会理应存在的正常现象。但在中国，人与人之间的地位差别很大，思维境界却相差不大，甚至有可能越是官员说的话越是有漏洞百出。这就实在是中国教育的悲哀了。
“狼爸虎妈”与周眩亲子教育读后感
最近反复阅读了“狼爸与虎妈”，同时也学习周眩的“成功教子法”。“狼爸与虎妈”的教育模式强调的是严厉、甚至冷酷；周眩的“成功教子法”强调的是循循善诱；“狼爸”四个孩子三个打进北大，“虎妈”同样将孩子打进名校。周眩的循循善诱的引导同样让他的“聋女”考上了北大，两者教子法形成的是一种对立，两则谁劣谁优不言自明。鄙人才疏学浅不能说严历是好的教育方法，也不敢说循循善诱是最佳教子方案。一个铜板的正反面，很难说清楚是对是错，事物发展的规律离不开自然逻辑规律。望子成龙的家长，往往是在上演拔苗助长杯具。因材施教才是教育孩子最佳方法。孩子教育不能过余严厉，过余严厉“叫冷酷”孩子在冷酷的高压下被强制进行教育，会不会失去童年快乐而伤失创意；会不会因为冷酷变得无情。 有这样一个故事，一个博士爸爸由于过余严厉，儿子考上大学后一去不复返，直到他死的那一刻。临死前他躺在床上等待着儿子和女儿见最后一面，儿子和女儿迟迟不来。于是他说到：这是我太过严厉的结果。记得有一次，我带他们到海边玩，儿子看到了一个很大的山骨石他特别喜欢，可惜他自己拿不动，他对我说爸爸你帮我拿一下吧！博士爸爸说：你喜欢是你的事，你自己拿吧！并迈步向前不理不采。儿子又说姐姐你帮我拿吧！姐姐说我拿不动啊！姐弟哭成一团抬着山骨走………….。他还说这不算还有更严厉的呢！话没说完就命归黄泉。这也就是所谓冷酷结果，当然我讲的`不是怕临死前没有子女见最后一面，而是反映了过余的严厉会导致人性变得无情。 不管是师生之间、还是师徒之间、还是父子之间循循善诱因材施教才是孩子快乐成长的摇篮。但循循善诱里面同样有着“严厉”，只是我们要把握好尺度。孩子生下来好似一张白纸，在上面绘画什么样的蓝图取决于父母。我们不能一味的在他身上“粘坏标签”，什么傻、笨、不如谁、、猪脑、蠢驴等等……久而久之孩子就真的变得笨了，严重失去自信心。只有父母欣赏他，他才会发挥好他的长处，这一点在企业里上级与下级，我们说是“用人之道”，我是深有体会的，何尝又不一样呢？我们都认为孩子三岁前很可爱，为什么三岁后就不可爱了呢？这完全是因为他有了思维，同时也会根据自己的思维去尝试他的想要，这时我们应当在孩子思想上进行正确引导。做好孩子的引导要从自己开始做起，首先要立正自己，因为你是他的标榜，什么样的家长就会有什么样的孩子。很多的家长天天叫孩子学习，自己却天天打麻将、上网打游戏、游手好闲、不务正业、360天没有看过一本书，没有学习过新的科技；你怎么去教育你的孩子。教育孩子我发现，在“比比圈”的亚文化环境中，大家重视亲子教育是好事，但重视教育的同时，注重的结果都是“考多少分数”、都是“考什么名牌大学”，而忽略了孩子的动手能力与思想品质。俗话说360行，行行出状元，不一定人家英语好你就逼他英语好，不一定人家孩子作文好你就逼他作文好，不一定人家数理化好你就逼他数理化好。高分又有何妨，名牌大学又有何妨，当然不是说知识不重要，知识不是书本上的才叫知识，我认为书本上的东西只是房基，要高楼大厦还靠毕业将知识与勤苦实践整合。所见、所闻、所学、所触才是真正的知识。书本上的知识是“智商”社会知识是“情商”，那么当今的企业家有几个是什么正牌大学毕业的，他的成功靠地是情商而不是智商。所以我要印证我前面所说的“一个铜板的正反面”。
孩子的教育应当是循循善诱，根据孩子的兴趣和爱好进行引导和支持。同时也要注孩子的思想品质教育，不能把我们的不成功，强加在后人身上，要想想我们自己是什么东西？能为家庭做什么？能为社会做什么？孩不是属于你的产物，你没有权利打他、强迫他，打骂型的教育是无能的表现。不要迷信什么“狼爸虎妈”，要根据孩子的性格制定一套适合自己孩子性质的教育方法，很多的东西只能借鉴只能参考，不能将一种方法用于多个孩子进行教育。
原创：姚圣罡/11月18号晚21点 图片引用“狼爸虎妈”
《虎妈的战歌》：一位西方母亲的读后感
《虎妈的战歌》：一位西方母亲的读后感 【美国《华盛顿邮报》网站1月7日文章】题：蔡美儿的《虎妈的战歌》，谈美籍华人的家庭文化(记者伊莉莎白・张) 《虎妈的战歌》一书的封面深深打动了我这名普通母亲的内心。虽然这本回忆录似乎为的是证明中国父母比西方父母更擅长教子，但封面上的文字称这本书描述了“激烈的文化冲突、短暂的荣耀滋味”以及一个13岁孩子使“虎妈”受挫的经历。作为一个嫁入中国家庭的典型西方母亲，我渴望看到一位自认为知道所有问题答案的母亲尝到苦果。 从很多方面看来，“虎妈”没有令人失望。晚上，我会用胳膊碰醒丈夫，将书中一些更发人深思的段落读给他听，比如作者蔡美儿威胁大女儿说如果她不能把钢琴弹得更好就烧掉她的毛绒玩具。蔡美儿写道：“中国父母所知道的是，除非你对一件事情很擅长，否则它就不会有趣。”白天，我会告诉自己的两个女儿，蔡美儿如何将不够精美的生日卡片扔回给女儿，让她们做张更好的。当我那两个有一半中国血统的孩子在外面玩耍时，我能听到更严厉的'移民邻居家里的孩子正在苦练小提琴和钢琴，对我这样一个母亲而言，这本书能让人“幸灾乐祸”。 根据中国的教子理念，刻苦用功才能有所成就，而成就又能带来自信和更多成就。 这本回忆录提出了有关爱、自豪、抱负和自尊的一些有趣但有时也令人不安的问题。 《虎妈的战歌》一书的封面深深打动了我这名普通母亲的内心。虽然这本回忆录似乎为的是证明中国父母比西方父母更擅长教子，但封面上的文字称这本书描述了“激烈的文化冲突、短暂的荣耀滋味”以及一个13岁孩子使“虎妈”受挫的经历。作为一个嫁入中国家庭的典型西方母亲，我渴望看到一位自认为知道所有问题答案的母亲尝到苦果。 从很多方面看来，“虎妈”没有令人失望。晚上，我会用胳膊碰醒丈夫，将书中一些更发人深思的段落读给他听，比如作者蔡美儿威胁大女儿说如果她不能把钢琴弹得更好就烧掉她的毛绒玩具。蔡美儿写道：“中国父母所知道的是，除非你对一件事情很擅长，否则它就不会有趣。”白天，我会告诉自己的两个女儿，蔡美儿如何将不够精美的生日卡片扔回给女儿，让她们做张更好的。当我那两个有一半中国血统的孩子在外面玩耍时，我能听到更严厉的移民邻居家里的孩子正在苦练小提琴和钢琴，对我这样一个母亲而言，这本书能让人“幸灾乐祸”。 根据中国的教子理念，刻苦用功才能有所成就，而成就又能带来自信和更多成就。 这本回忆录提出了有关爱、自豪、抱负和自尊的一些有趣但有时也令人不安的问题。浅谈党员教育的时代特性 崔益虎 -领导讲话
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